Since I’ve been thinking about letters recently, I’ve decided to write a few.
These letters are meant to simply express how I feel about certain topics. This one is to my future husband. Now if you’ve been following my posts you’ll know I’m currently in a relationship. This letter is not pointed to this person (unless he’s seriously thinking it should be pointed at him).
Dear Future Husband,
I want to start by saying you are one brave man. I’m not going to be easy. I promise. I hope that doesn’t scare you away. But I know if you’re truly the one then you aren’t afraid.
I know this might seem like a lot, but bear with me.
I’m stubborn and I know it. I won’t pick the restaurant because I don’t want you to hate my choice. I don’t like waiting for anything. If I want something, I want it now. I won’t tell you when I’m ticked off about something, but if you seem ticked off I’ll bug you about it until you tell me. I’ll beat it out of you if I have to. Double standard I know, but it’s how I’ll handle that. Being stubborn also comes with being far too organized. I’m stubborn about my organization. Yes, those DVDs have to be in alphabetical order. So do the books too, but by author’s last name. And I hope you like watching DVDs and reading because I love them and they are a part of me.
I’m an anxious person. I like having a set schedule and sticking to it (see about organization above). Now don’t get me wrong, I like surprises, but when it’s a box of chocolates or a spontaneous night out, not an extravagant trip or a surprise life-changing decision.
I want to make decisions together. No going off and trying to figure it out on your own. I need to be a part of your world. That’s how this marriage is going to work. I’m not going to do anything without you so I hope that you extend that same courtesy.
Decisions are a big deal. Our wedding will be a big decision. I’m not going to lie, I want a wedding that I’ll never forget. You won’t get away with a quick courthouse wedding (Sorry, not sorry). It won’t work that way. I want to be surrounded by friends and family when I say I do. I know most guys aren’t a huge contribution to the decisions of a wedding, but I want you to be a part of it. Even if that’s just getting your opinion on flower arrangements or what not. To really get inside my head about weddings, I highly suggest you stalk my Pinterest. It’s got all my ideas and then some.
After our wedding, we will travel. I want to travel to so many places. I want to explore the world and I hope you do too. Traveling alone is definitely not something I want to do. I like being with other people and who better to travel with than the love of my life. I want to camp and road trip and explore the world we live in.
I want pets. A dog is a must.
I don’t want kids. I know a lot of people say that will change when I get older but they’ve been saying that and my thoughts on the matter haven’t changed. Period.
I’m not religious. I have never practiced any particular faith and I don’t intend on changing that. That goes for our wedding ceremony as well. I personally would love for a close friend to marry us.
I want to stay close to my family. I don’t want to move to some foreign country. I’d love to travel to one, but not live in one. I love my family and I want to be close enough to where it doesn’t cost me an arm and a leg to see them. I also want to be close to my friends. I have very few close friends and I don’t want to be miles and miles away from them. Essentially as long as we stay in the United States we will be alright.
I never want to get in the way of your happiness. I want to be a part of it. If there’s something stopping you from doing whatever, communicate with me and we can work it out. Communication means the world to me. As I said above, I’ll beat it out of you if I have to. On the contrary, I don’t want to pressure you into anything. I don’t want you to feel uncomfortable about anything that has to do with our relationship.
I love to cook, but I definitely don’t have the energy to do it all the time. There’s a strong possibility that we will have a drawer full of take-out menus. I also love to bake, but I never finish things I make in time and I end up throwing it out. Hopefully, you can help with this.
I like to keep a clean house too, but I don’t necessarily like the cleaning aspect of it. I think the best way to conquer this is to work together. I hope that’s okay, no, it better be okay. We will share our household responsibilities. This isn’t the 1950s and no I won’t make sure dinner is hot and ready the second you arrive home from work.
I love to decorate for the holidays. Like, prepare for our house to be that really cool house with the scary (but not too scary) decorations on Halloween that gives out the good candy. That goes for Christmas as well. I love the holiday season and I usually go way overboard but I don’t expect you to reciprocate unless you want to. I just expect you to join in the holiday spirit and be merry.
I’m addicted to TV. I love sitting in bed and watching Netflix, Hulu, HBO, good old cable, you name it. I hope you do too because I foresee a lot of it. It’s how I wind down and how I relax at the end of the night.
I really like shoes. Like it’s not quite an addiction because shoes are expensive and all, but I definitely have a lot of them. And I’ll continue to get more over the years so closet space may be tight.
I have moments when I might not be the nicest person. I can be mean and harsh, but I don’t ever truly mean it. I can be impulsive with the things I say and sometimes my filter has disappeared. Just be patient with me and call me out on my bullshit. I’ll be pissed off, but in the end, I’ll learn a lesson.
I hope that we can get through the hard times and love each other more and more each day. I hope we can endure the hardships of life together. I hope that we can be open during the tough times and the greatest of times. I hope we can laugh together until we cry. I hope that we can have the same friends and that our families get along. I hope that we share the same interests and that we can connect on so many levels.
I hope that our love for each other is unconditional. Always. I hope there are never any doubts about our commitment. I hope that you bring out the best in me and that I bring out the best in you. I hope that we push each other towards greatness. I also hope that we never falter. I want to grow old with you. I want to spend the rest of forever together.
P.S. I hope that our engagement is spectacularly magical. Yes, I said spectacularly magical. I want that day to be the second best day of my life, following the day we commit ourselves to each other. If you are unsure of how to best defeat this task check that Pinterest board and contact my best friend. She’ll know best.